If you don’t respect your partner, you won’t be with them.
If you don’t respect your boss, you won’t want to work under them.
If you don’t respect your company, you won’t be there.
There will be time that you will accept what is without change. There will be time that perhaps you are okay with how everything is going. The beginning phases are the time that perhaps everything will be okay, you will accept below average or even average. You will accept that things are “just the way it is”. Until, one day, you aren’t actually okay with it. You recognize that you have just been settling and you’re not about that.
Once that day comes that respect is lost, you’re out.
But how does that even happen, respect is lost when you no longer SHARE the SAME VALUES.
Values are important. They are your thoughts, your feelings but MOSTLY, your actions. This is shown in how you feel about something, how people are treated, about work, how you care for the house, or how you care for others. All of these are rooted in your own values system.
Your ACTIONS are derived from VALUES. So if you don’t share the same values, you’re just not going to be able to vibe with them.
This is the number 1 reason why things don’t work out.
What’s crazy is most people don’t even know what this means, what are values and how do we find them? Today, I want to do something a little different. I’m going to give you a task to do.
For the next week, write down every single time you have an emotional reaction to something that goes wrong in your world. Where are you triggered or activated. You could also look at your past and see something there. You can even do this by going places you wouldn’t normally go or spend time with people you wouldn’t normally spend time with.
Triggers aren’t far from you. When you find out what triggers you, you get activated. In that activation, there is emotion. And, where there is an emotion, there is a value. Look at what gets an emotional response from you.
You will notice there is a theme amongst all of these. When I did this I found mine. I’ll share them with you.
Fitness – This is huge for me because fitness is the gateway to a long fulfilling life. I saw enough of my family not care for their health. When others don’t care to be a better version of themselves through movement and nutrition, it hits hard.
Integrity – Doing the right thing, for all the right reasons, and for all the right people. Enough people cheated me, which hurt me too many times in my life. Now I can smell a bullish*tter from miles away, no matter how well they try to hide it.
Truth – I’ve been lied to enough times to trigger me, someone who tells the truth is a worthy person. I mean the truth that hurts, the truth that sometimes we don’t want to hear but need to hear.
Faith – Believe in something bigger than yourself. It’s the ultimate, it’s creates humility.
Honesty – Goes with truth but is more actionable. When you are honest, you are also honest with yourself, because too often people will cheat this and say they are be honest but ultimately, they aren’t.
The pattern in mine is they are all ACTIONS. Which holds the core value, ACTIONS speak louder than words.
When you know your values, you start to look for them in others, which ultimately helps you better align with people and then a better quality of life.
I’ll wait for your response on this. I can’t wait